Like some perfume distilled from common flowers which grow on every bank, the domestic piety which makes home a house of God and a gate of heaven, is prepared from these two simples--obedience and love. However, the final headship of the man has to be acknowledged. Adopting a different punctuation, many, from Chrysostom to Winer and Schrader, join ἐν κυρίῳ to the verb ὑποτάσσεσθε, as if the meaning were—“be submissive in the Lord.” The order of the words seems to forbid such an exegesis, and ἐν κυρίῳ is united by its position to ἀνῆκευ—“as is fitting in the Lord.” In the imperfect form or time of the verb is implied, according to Winer, an appropriate hint that it had not been so with them at all times. 5:14 ) though this phrase may also be considered as a Thus in the word wife is wrapped up a hint of earnest, indoor, stay-at-home occupations, as being fitted for her who bears this name. ), When Mr. Disraeli retired from office he was offered an earldom. In this section we have the closest parallelism with the Epistle to the Ephesians ( Ephesians 5:22 to Ephesians 6:9 ). But supposing that there be no manifest neglect of these duties, I would ask, How much is there of God in them? Colossians 3:8-17 Paul Explains How Believers Should Live. The first ages of the Church display in all its beauty the native tendency of Christianity: and, if the same effects are nut alike visible now, it is not owing to any want of efficiency in religion itself, but to the low state of religion in the world. A good wife should be like three things; which three things she should not be like. Usually it is taken as an imperfect, “as was fitting,” and is thought (but this is very dubious) to imply a reproach. It is therefore not a duty which had only newly devolved upon them, but its propriety reached back to the point of their conversion. (18) As it is fit in the Lord.—For the explanation of this special fitness “in the Lord,” i.e., in virtue of Christian unity, see the grand description of Ephesians 5:23-24; Ephesians 5:32-33. The reciprocal duties of wives and husbands. in these they are not to be subject to them, but to Christ the woman was made out of the man, out of one of his ribs; and so, (For the same writer that wrote this, also wrote Galatians 3:28). The occasion of this arose from the circumstance that many believing women were united to unbelieving husbands. But the wife craves for love, and a tone of tenderness will make her soul brighten for days amid the manifold cares of home. Wives are to cooperate with their own husbands, whether Christian or not. And everyone is "in subjection" to someone. The words ἐν κυρίῳ belong to ἀνῆκεν, not to ὑποτάσεσθε; as is shewn by the parallel expression in Colossians 3:20; was fitting, in that element of life designated by ἐν κυρίῳ. III. The wool was spun into thread by the girls, who were therefore called “spinsters”; the thread was woven by their mother, who was accordingly called the weaver or the wife; and another remnant of this old truth we discover in the word heirloom, applied to any old piece of furniture which has come down to us from our ancestors, and which, though it may be a chair or bed, shows that a loom was once the most important piece of furniture in the house. What was God’s original design for the … Therefore, as the Church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing [Note: Ephesians 5:22-24. The Egyptian women had no shoes, that they might learn to keep at home. Colossians 3:18-20 “Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. ],” “even as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord [Note: 1 Peter 3:1; 1 Peter 3:5-6. ], 1. In fulfilling the commands of parents, there should be no reluctance: on the contrary, to please, and serve, and honour his parents should be the desire and delight of every child. (Genesis 2:18; Psalms 68:6). Convinced of this, we enter with great pleasure on the consideration of our relative duties; that is, of the duties. (a) when the wife is removed from domestic rule and degraded to the rank of a maid, even perhaps subjected to one of them, (Proverbs 31:27; Titus 2:5). Erdman notes, "In such submission there is nothing humiliating or degrading. No woman has the duty of a wife to perform but she who is one, and no man has the duty of a husband to perform but he who is married. unto your own husbands — The oldest manuscripts omit “own,” which crept in from Ephesians 5:22. as it is fit in the Lord — Greek, “was fit,” implying that there was at Colosse some degree of failure in fulfilling this duty, “as it was your duty to have done as disciples of the Lord.”. This begins Paul's instructions on certain reciprocal relationships, that of wives and husbands being treated first. Now no man ever yet hated his own flesh, but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord does the Church [Note: Ephesians 5:28-29; Ephesians 5:33. him, that profess to be new creatures, converted persons, that so One of the thoughts to this word "fit" is "to pertain to what is due, duty, as was fitting" according to Thayer. Observer.). § 40, 3; Bernhardy, 373. ], "an attitude that recognizes the rights of authority. 18 Wives, submit yourselves to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. 1. But the principles laid down here are applicable to all forms of service. Corinthians 14:34 ) and which was enjoined originally, see ( Sed liberum arbitrium, pro quo tantopere contenditur, viri amiserunt, uxores arripuerunt, saith an author. It is a subjection of love not of tyrrany. Ralph P. Martin, Colossians and Philemon, p119; and W. Schrage, The Ethics of the New Testament, p253.]. Fathers, be upon your guard respecting this; and instead of thus driving your children to despondency, endeavour to bring them up in the “nurture and admonition of the Lord [Note: Ephesians 6:4. От мужей же он требует любви и доброго обращения, коль скоро им грозила опасность тиранического злоупотребления властью. woman from him: man was made first, and then the woman; and the Nor must you merely endeavour to render her happy, but you must be ready to make great sacrifices for this end. 1. Domestic happiness and family Christianity are made up of very homely elements. Salem Media Group. We'll send you an email with steps on how to reset your password. The subjection is not that of a drudge or slave, to be ruled by force. The apostle commands wives to obey their [own] husbands, and husbands to love their [own] wives. The idea of being raised with Christ was introduced back in Colossians 2:12, where Paul used baptism to illustrate this spiritual reality. No! It has pleased God to call me out of that dangerous condition. How much has a Christian wife in her power I By submission she may gain conquests for Christ, and commend the Lord whom she supremely loves. ‘Wives be in subjection to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord.’. (b) Conformity of manners and affections. These servants are slaves. The wife, child, servant, are to obey; the husband to love, the father to show his love in gentle considerateness, the master to yield his servants their dues. I take Paul"s phrase "in everything" in Ephesians 5:24 to mean "in every sphere of life" (i.e, in domestic life, in church life, and in civil life). This spirit is grossly wrong in a Christian man to the woman who has given up all for him. In the Lord] Though the husband’s will be crooked (so it be not wicked), the wife’s will is not straight in God’s sight, if not pliable to his. what an example is here! The submission required of a wife involves--. But that the Lord Jesus Christ wants her to be in subjection to her husband, to support him and to be by his side as a help-meet. "Is fitting" is the Greek word aneko which means: "something is fitting or right to do and is what is proper or is one's duty." Wives and husbands, Colossians 3:18, Colossians 3:19. II. Now follow particular duties, as they are called, (456) which depend on the calling of individuals. Colossians 3:18 to Colossians 4:1 deals with the three great relations of life—between wives and husbands, children and parents, servants and masters. women professing godliness should adorn themselves with; and Wives submit yourselves unto your own husbands. (a) from the precept itself, which admits of no exception. We notice those, [Your rank in society is ordered of the Lord: nor, when you hear in what light you are viewed by him, will you see any reason to repine at it. (a) Pride, which makes the wife disesteem her husband as unworthy to command her. church members one towards another, for their mutual good and Colossians 3:18, ESV: "Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord." Colossians 3:18 to Colossians 4:1. 2. Thus unity of domestic administration was to be secured by oneness of headship. It means that in the home, as everywhere else, “order is heaven’s first law.” If there is to be peace and happiness in the home there must not be two co-ordinate authorities. Yes, “whether ye be bond or free, your Master, your work, your wages are the same [Note: Ephesians 6:8. The reason of this seems to be, that the duties of the inferior arise solely from the command of God, and are totally independent of the conduct of the superior; so that no neglect of duty on the one part can justify any neglect of it on the other. We should have no exclusive preference for doctrines or duties, but should put each in their place, and bring them both forward in their proper season. Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord. Find Top Church Sermons, Illustrations, and Preaching Slides on Colossians 3:18-25. their husbands; for as it is giving honour to them, it is a real 20 Children, obey your parents in everything, for this pleases the Lord. This also infers that various types of "subjection" exist, which are not "in the Lord": (a) Some women are in subjection, because they either have been taught or they think that they are inferior to a man, not as smart or intelligent. It is worthy of observation, that, not in this place only, but in all other places where the Apostles speak of the relative duties, they mention those of the inferior first. again 1 Corinthians 14:34 ...). 18 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord. ]: and in the last day they will be found, in too many instances, the prime movers, and the real causes of their children’s eternal ruin. The submission which is inculcated on the part of the wife is wholly different in source and form from that slavery which is found in heathen lands, for it is the willing acquiescence which springs out of social position and wedded love, and is dictated at once by a wife's affection, and by her instinctive tendency to lean on her husband for support. The husband is to be the house-band--the strength and bond of the family. 2. The apostle proceeds from those duties which related to them as church members one towards another, for their mutual good and edification, and the glory of God, to such as concerned them in their own houses and families, as in a natural relation to each other; as husbands and wives, parents and children, masters and servants; showing hereby, that the Gospel does not at all break in upon, but establishes the duties of common and civil life. As it is fit] Ut decet, as it is comely; and women love comeliness, delight to be neat. She should be like an echo, to speak when spoken to; but she should not be like an echo, always to have the last word. See Anthonie von den Doel, "Submission in the New Testament," Brethren Life and Thought31:2 (Spring1986):121-25; and Paul S. Fiddes, ""Woman"s Head is Man" A Doctrinal Reflection upon a Pauline Text," Baptist Quarterly31:8 (October1986):370-83. Submission is the duty of wives. 18 Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. It has pleased God that there should be different ranks and orders of society, and that to each should be assigned appropriate duties. The young are to remember that the nobleness and heart repose of their whole lives may be made or marred by marriage, and to take heed where they fix their affections. ]:” and precisely in the same way should you exercise all imaginable tenderness towards your wives, and be as careful of paining them as you would be of suffering any thing to wound the apple of your eye.]. Is the authority which you either obey or exercise, regarded as God’s? Thus obeying, the woman's subjection is service done to Christ; which may comfort her, in case of any unkind returns from her husband to her. But, whatever ground there may be for that complaint, it may be well to inquire, Whether there be not too much reason to complain of another class, who pay such exclusive attention to the doctrines, as almost entirely to overlook the duties, of the Gospel? It was his meat and drink to do it. Seek … Continue reading "Commentary … The reason for this injunction--“as it is fit in the Lord.” It is God s will that it should be so, and also the dictate of common sense. Lord; but in all other things they are, even as the church is His wife therefore became Viscountess Beaconsfield. Reverence; "Let the wife see that she reverence her husband," Ephesians 5:33, as Sarah did, and is chronicled for it, 1 Peter 3:6. View him also as the Husband and Lord of his Church; what inconceivable love and kindness does he exercise towards her at all times, notwithstanding her innumerable defects! The thought crossed my mind, can this "own husband" issue relate to more than adultery. As it is fit in the Lord; suitable to God’s institution, in a becoming manner, agreeable to the mind of Christ, Acts 5:29 1 Peter 3:7. повинуйтесь См. He is to love. (cf.Colossians 3:20). 1. Wives, submit yourselves
- Notes on the parallel passage in Ephesians 5:21-24. “Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. She should be like a snail, to keep within her own house; but she should not be like the snail to carry all she has upon her “back. regarded by Christ as if it was done to himself; and indeed his Domestic life as seen in Christian homes is a purely Christian creation, and would have been a new revelation at Colossae as it is in many a mission field to-day. 15 And let the peace of God rule in your hearts, to the which also ye are called in one body; and be ye thankful. The apostle, entering upon an exhortation to relative duties, begins first with that which wives owe to their husbands to whom they are married, by reason this relation is the first in nature, and the fountain whence the rest do flow, Genesis 2:22 Psalms 127:3 128:3 Proverbs 5:15,16. honour and glory should be the governing view in it; see ( The skill required is not so great. The Bible makes it clear that men are subject to Christ, to powers that be, to employees if they are working men etc. Either side is, perhaps, apt to forget its own special obligation: the wife is not so likely to forget her love as her subjection, nor the husband his authority as his love. 2. Submission is the duty of wives, hypotassesthe. I do not think that God intends for a wife to yield to a husband who abuses her or orders her to do things contrary to God"s will. Also carefully note that this "subjection" isn"t some moral consequence that all women suffer because of Eve"s sin. Agreeably therefore to the Apostolic plan, we shall notice the duty, [To you are assigned obedience and subjection; partly, because you were created after man, and for the sake of man; and partly because you were first in the transgression, and were the means of bringing ruin upon man and upon all his posterity [Note: 1 Timothy 2:11-14. with Genesis 3:16.]. Colossians is the most abbreviated of these lists, with the most instruction given to the common situation in the New Testament world of how Christian slaves should behave. Некоторые строят речь так: повинуйтесь в Господе, как и прилично. No entry exists in Forerunner Commentary for Colossians 3:18. To obviate this evil let her remember that her husband’s dignity and her own inferiority are not to be estimated from virtues, figure, nobility, or riches; but from Divine ordination; that pride is of the devil, who, as he incited Eve, instills the same poison into her daughters. The reason urging to a regard to it is. In getting in, her finger was caught by the door, which shutting upon it held it so fast that she could not withdraw it. 2. Ephesians 5:22). Here again we are called, in the first place, to notice those of the inferior: [Obedience is your duty also: nor is there any limit to the exercise of this duty, except where you are required to violate a command of God. 2. 18Wives, be subject. Clarke's Colossians 3:18 Bible Commentary Wives, submit yourselves - Having done with general directions, the apostle comes to particular duties, which are commonly called relative; because they only belong to persons in certain situations; and are not incumbent on all. It was put to the test, and the boast of the husband was: found true. It is not the pastor's place either, though both the husband and then the pastor should teach this verse to the erring woman and encourage her before the Lord to make it a part of her life. The sum and fountain of all other duties is love. His attentions to her till the close of life were of the most gentlemanly and affectionate kind. Probably . NASB (UPDATED) TEXT: COLOSSIANS 3:18-21 18 Wives, be subject to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. The way in which to judge of our spiritual attainments—, [Religion is a practical thing, and is intended, as we have shewn, to make us fill to advantage every relation in life. (Bp. В этом случае апостол подкрепляет повиновение женщин Божиим авторитетом. Colossians 2:18 Parallel Verses [⇓ See commentary ⇓] Colossians 2:18, NIV: "Do not let anyone who delights in false humility and the worship of angels disqualify you.Such a person also goes into great detail about what they have seen; they are puffed up with idle notions by their unspiritual mind." He who neglects this, subjects himself to heavy censure (1 Timothy 5:8). The real strength and virtue of a nation consist to a great extent in the purity of family ties; and in this, more than anything else socially, has the religion of Christ blessed the world. Habituate yourselves then to realize the thought, that it is Christ whom you serve, or in whose place you stand whilst others are serving you. is to be joined to it, not to . Wives submit yourselves unto your own husbands. II. Now I grant that there are many who discharge in a most commendable manner their relative duties, whilst yet they have no regard for God in their hearts. The article here distinguishes class from class and with the vocative case can be best rendered “Ye wives.” So with each group. Genesis Tears gushed from his eyes, while, with deep emotion, he replied, “My wife was brought to God some years before myself. He commands imperiously; she resists proudly. Take some time and see if you can think of other situations that this verse might fit. Next, to men in the gate, Proverbs 31:23; Proverbs 31:31. ), A pleasure-loving husband boasted of the good temper of his wife; and a wager was laid that she would rise at midnight and give the company a supper with perfect cheerfulness. Cf. Paul recognized that “sum of all villainies,” but his gospel had principles which cut up slavery by the roots. 21 Fathers, do not embitter your children, or they will become discouraged. Know then, ye husbands, that this is the duty assigned to you: if your wives are to be obedient, as the Church is to Christ, ye also on your part are to be loving, even as Christ is to the Church. 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